Shut Dem All: Self Improvement

It’s been a while since I have written anything on this blog.

Actually, I was just a little break from writing. I have been trying to make videos and all. Although I’m still making videos, I will try to post regularly here too.

So, let’s talk about today’s topic. Should you quit or not? I know by reading the title, some of you might be wondering that what the heck Manish. Why are you saying us to quit and all? Don’t you think that we should not give up on our dreams and all?

Well, just read this post and let me tell you why I think that sometimes quitting is good too. I am sure this post will going to change your views. So, with this being said, let’s dive straight into this post:

Sometimes quitting is good too

We all have listened to this thousand times that don’t quit. You should never give up and all. But the thing is this is a wrong approach. I mean, I am not saying that you should give up on your dreams totally. But what I believe is that you should know when to quit and when you don’t.

I mean, let’s imagine that you’re doing something with a wrong approach or with an improper technique. So, even after you put all the efforts, hustle, hard work, and all, you will not be going to get success in that work. Why?

Because you’re doing that with a wrong approach, so, that’s what I want you to know that instead of putting all the hard work blindly, analyze the technique by which you’re doing that work. You should be brave enough to adopt new changes. Don’t think in this way that no matter what happens, I am going to put all the hustle into this work, and I will eventually going to succeed.

You will be going to succeed, but not if you keep doing all that work by those wrong techniques. You should have to quit those wrong approaches, and you should adopt new changes. That’s the way to succeed.

Conclusion:

So, that’s what I want you to know that don’t just put all the hard work, efforts blindly. Be smart enough and learn when to quit. That’s how you’ll be going to succeed.

So, that’s it for today. Share this post with someone who needs to read this.

Thank you.

Have a good day.

We all want a happy life where we just want to live peacefully and happily with our beloved once. And in this process, most of us ignore some of the bitter truth of life and some of us even knowing those things, don’t want to accept them.

So, in this post, I’m going to tell you about those bitter truths of life which one should know. So, let’s get started:

3 Bitter Truths of Life that Everyone Should Know:

1. Sharing Your Problems with Others

If you’re one of those who think that people whom you trust or with whom you share your problems really do care about you and your problems then you really need to understand this. 20% of people don’t care about your problems and 80% are glad that you have them.

And the sooner you are going to realize it, the better it is for you.

We all want people to do well, but not better than us.
This is pretty much self-explanatory. I mean we all want our friends, our known ones to do well, but not better than us. And if you disagree with me, then please question it with yourself and try to answer it honestly.

2. No one will save you.

Okay, so if you think that people do care about you and they’ll come to rescue you from your problems then you’re badly mistaken. I mean in this world, everyone is busy in their life and with their own problems. So, you have to be your own superhero.

If you think that a man with a red cape will come into your life and will be going to save you from all of your problems then boy you are badly mistaken. And you have to realize it as soon as possible.

No matter what you do, some people will hate you anyway.
I think this is what you can agree with me with no doubt. I mean no matter how good you are as a person, no matter how good you things do, no matter how nice you talk with everyone. Always there will be someone who hates you for absolutely no reason.

Yeah skrew, those people.

3. Life is Unpredictable.

Let’s be honest, we all know this but how many of us accept this fact. I mean we all know that life is unpredictable and we can die at any time, but still, we choose not to accept this and ignore it.

I am not saying that you shouldn’t be scared of death or something else inappropriate. I am just saying that life is unpredictable and we all need to accept this.

So, that's it for today. I hope you like this post.

Do share it with whom you think might need to read this.

Thank you.

From the past few weeks, I don’t know what has just happened to me but I was not in the mood to write anything. I mean I was just feeling low, it’s not that I have not been doing anything apart. But it’s just I have not been writing from the past few weeks or maybe months.

So, today I was wondering and this weird thought came into my mind. So, what was it?

Actually, I was thinking and I realize that I call myself a writer, but I am the one who is not writing from months. I mean I was busy making videos for my YouTube channel and all. But it doesn’t mean that I should quit writing. I mean I call myself a writer, not a YouTuber.

So, this is what I have become in the past few months, “A Writer Who Don’t Write.”

I can’t even express my feelings about it. I mean I’m literally very disappointed and sad too with my current condition. So, I thought this needs to end. This break now has to end and here I am writing again.

If you’re a writer I think you can relate it with me. When you don’t write anything for weeks or maybe months, it feels something different to write again. I mean now I’m finding it difficult to write. I have to think a lot for the right words and to write something useful, or to write something which can make sense.

Let me know in the comment section below if you too can relate with it.

What are my plans now?

The break is now officially over and now its time to get myself to back on track again. Although it is now difficult to write in that old-fashioned way still I am going to write. I mean I have done it in the past, so it’s not a big deal now.

From this post, I will try to write at least three articles per week and let’s see how it goes. These articles are going to be personal development related and by the way if you want me to write articles on my personal life experiences then please let me know in the comment section below.

Again, this is not the usual type of post which I post here but still, I thought you guys should know that what has happened to me and to this blog. And why I haven’t been posting for this long time.

Well, so this is it for today. See you soon in the very next post.

Have a good day.

Thanks.

Nowadays, there’s been a trend in the market like people are telling you to be positive all the time. Every other self-help guru is teaching you that you’re born to do something great, all you have to do is to just hustle hard. They are saying you to ignore all the negative thoughts and negative things that are around you and just focus on something good.

But what if I told you that you suck and you have to accept it. Instead of being positive all the time, accept the negative situation and try to live with it. What if I told you that this pain will never be going to leave you and you have to live with it?

Well, in this article, I’m going to tell you about a different approach. This is what I called “Negative Self-Help.”

Actually, it’s not originated by me, but it’s by a great writer, Mark Manson, whom I admire. He is the writer of the best-selling book “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”

So, what the heck is Negative Self-Help?

Actually, I believe that what these every other self-help guru is teaching you is not all true. I mean they are saying you that pain is temporary and it will going to leave one day. But what I think is a pain is not temporary but it lasts forever. I mean not the same kind of a pain but it will come in a different way.

I mean if you’re having some kind of issues with your personal life and it’s the thing that is making you feel sad. Then it doesn’t mean that it will be going to last forever. But it will eventually fade up and as per the time passes new problems will come up along the way and you’ll become sad about those problems.

See, it’s a complete life circle which I believe that never ends. And this is where I think that what most other self-help gurus are telling you is not all true.

So, what do I believe in?

Well, what I am telling you in this approach is that instead of ignoring the pain and thinking that pain will go one day, try to live with it. Just accept the pain and try to live with it. I mean in this way you will get less hurt.

I mean if you have got some issues to deal with, then instead of ignoring them and thinking in a way that these problems will be going to leave one day, try to accept them and lookup for a solution for them.

In this way, eventually, you will become more powerful than ever.

Let me tell you one thing, we are humans and we all suck at something. And some of us suck at many things. But that’s not the point. The point is if we know we suck at one thing, then instead of thinking in this way that we are born to do great things, try to suck less. I mean we all suck, so just try to suck less. Eventually, you will do things much more efficiently than others.

Did you get my point?

All I want to say is that instead of imagining ourselves as a great human being just be normal. I mean if you are bad at something, accept it. If you have pain, accept it. Instead of ignoring all the negative thoughts, accept them and figure out some way to live with them.

So, what you think about this approach? Let me know in the comment section below.

Public speaking is what I have always skipped and is what from which I always run away in my past life. But nowadays its something which has totally changed my life. It has opened many opportunities for me and has a big part in changing my life.

If you too have a fear of public speaking or just get scared to talk on stage, I think this is the only post you needed. Because in this post, I am going to tell you some of my personal ways which have helped me to get over my fear of public speaking. And I hope these tips will going to work for you the same.

So, without further delay, let’s dive into this post.

Here are my personal top 3 tips which will help you to get over your fear of public speaking.

3 Tips to Get Over Your Fear of Public Speaking:

1. Do not underestimate yourself.

The first thing which I have done is I changed my thinking. I mean in the past, I used to underestimate myself. Like I used to think that I don’t stand a chance among others, I’m useless, what if they question something from me, and many more useless things.

And I’m guessing if you too have a public speaking fear, then you too might get these types of thoughts in your head. So, firstly I want you to stop thinking like this and from now on you should have to fill your head with positive thoughts.

Don’t underestimate yourself. The key to master public speaking is in your head. I mean firstly you have to clear your negative thoughts only then you can proceed further.

2. Educate yourself.

In scientific research, scientists have found out that the person who has more knowledge about is the topic is more likely to be more confident than the others who are just pretending that they know everything.

I mean you can fake that you know everything, but to a point, it will going to get you in trouble. So, instead, you should better educate yourself.

The more knowledge you have the more confidence you became. It’s something natural. If you know more than the persons around you, you became a little more confident, so it will too going to help you to get over your fear of public speaking.

3. Practice, Practice, and Practice.

Just like any other art form, public speaking is art too. And if you want to master it, like any other art form you have to practice t. I mean you have to get on the stage.

You have to get on the stage just to see how it feels. I mean you can just read out an article like these and keep reading more. But frankly speaking, these articles will not gonna help you unless you practice.

So, from now on you have to promise me that you will practice and keep practicing until you become a master.

It's not that you have to be on the stage to practice public speaking. You can also try it in a group of people or you can just simply make some face cam videos. (this is how I practice)

See, you can’t get over your fear unless you practice. So, keep practicing.

Conclusion:

Public speaking is nothing but just art that needs the right mindset and a lot of practice. When you combine these two, you rock the stage. You became the person who totally controls the crowd and which the audience loves the most. You became the person whose words impact lives and so on.

But all you gotta do is, you have to get out in the real field and have to practice a lot. Promise me you’ll do it and let me know in the comment section below how these tips work for you.

So, this is it for today.

I hope you have liked it.

Have a good day. 😊

Thanks.

Don't Give Up - Lamyaa Hanchaoui

Don’t Give Up, Don’t Give In,

There’s always an answer to everything.

This my friend is for you

The trials that you face and the dreams that you chase

You’re behind in your race

And you’re straying from your pace

Your mind is scattered all over the place

and you’re desperate for space

Little did he know this is your time to embrace

Don’t Give Up, Don’t Give In,

There’s always an answer to everything.

You know we tend to hide what’s inside

and waste time on what could been yet

is not the key to believe in our own identity

Your past brought you here

This is where it all begins

Don’t Give Up, Don’t Give In,

There’s always an answer to everything.

So, don’t sit hour after hour

While your tribulations tower

Don’t forget the countless blessings

Ever rich you have been showered

Find your strengths and your powers

To rise above the cowards

Be like the flowers

That give off its scent

When it’s crushed and devoured

Don’t Give Up, Don’t Give In,

There’s always an answer to everything.

And I found myself running from calamity

INSANITY to SANITY

This is REALITY

That we forget who created us and molded us

And made us human beings

With the details and fashion of

DNA and GENES

Who gave us a mind to judge our own actions

And routines by all means

Don’t Give Up, Don’t Give In,

There’s always an answer to everything.

And YES, life can be quite a MYSTERY

And the key to success doesn’t come free

And if you believe that this is all decreed

Then what will be will be

But I guess not everything that we wish for is not always

GUARANTEED

But your efforts won’t be FRUITLESS

Don’t ever think you’re USELESS

We all serve a purpose

So please don’t feel HOPELESS

Don’t Give Up, Don’t Give In,

There’s always an answer to everything.

And no, you’re not just another number

To be dispose of after

You are a mother, father, sister, brother, friend and a lover

To be true to yourself is worth the struggle

Although the critics make you suffer

Trees lose their leaves

Only to blossom

By the summer

Don’t Give Up, Don’t Give In,

There’s always an answer to everything.

So, repel negativity with positivity

And watch life bring every single possibility

And have an attitude

For gratitude

And if you want to be happy

That’s exactly what we’re meant to do

Don’t Give Up, Don’t Give In,

There’s always an answer to everything.

Don’t take me wrong, being kind is one of the best things you can do if you do it without the aim/sake of any profit. We should be kind for no reason.

But in this post, I want to talk about something different.

I want you to believe in that being a little bit selfish is beneficial for us. And in this post, I will talk about it.

So, before you start judging me, just wait and read this post. I am sure I will make my point clear to you and you too will start thinking in the way I think.

So, let’s dive into it.

How Being Selfish is Beneficial?

Have you ever been into a situation when someone asks you for a favor and you really don’t wanna do that work, but you’re so kind that you can’t deny their request and just agreed to do whatever they say?

Well didn’t know about you, but I personally have faced this situation in my past many times. I had a lot of my stuff to do, but the thing was I didn’t know how to say ‘NO’ to them. I thought they might get offended or will start to hate me if I didn’t do their job. So, what I do?

Yes! I simply just agreed to them and do whatever they ask.

I always think later that why I didn’t say NO to them, and I thought that I am so kind and maybe this was the reason. But let me tell you one thing.

This isn’t called being kind. This is called being fooled.

I just want to tell one thing. I am not going to teach you about social morals or your social responsibilities. I am here to tell you about the harsh truth of society and how you can live in this cruel world.

Here people are not as kind as you. They’ll use you and when their work gets done, they’ll eventually forget you. Believe me, I have faced this many time.

But again, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t help anyone or don’t be kind. I want you to be kind, but at the same time, I want you to know your value and your priorities.

You should set priorities in your life and should follow them strictly.

There’s nothing more important than yourself and you should be aware of it. Don’t let other downgrade your value and never let them control you.

Here’s an article that you should read How to Stop Saying YES When You Want to Say NO

How You Can Be Selfish?

Now again don’t get me wrong and be literally selfish. I mean selfish in a way that you’re able to say NO and being able to choose yourself first.

I have seen this many time and don’t wanna lie to you, I have faced this too that I just can’t say NO to someone.

For someone, saying no is not a big deal. But if you’re like me, then you can understand this feeling. Want to say NO, but our brain somehow managed us to say YES and we end up saying YES and then regret about it later.

Didn’t know anyone else faces this situation too or it’s just me! (After all, I think I am a little bit weird.)

So, now comes the question that how I can be this selfish that no one gets hurts by my actions/words and I still somehow manage to choose myself first.

Here are some things which I have done and still do, and which you can do too:

1. Speak Softly and Calmly.

Instead of just saying them NO harshly or you can say rudely. You can simply speak gently, softly and calmly to them.

You can explain to them why you can’t help them with their work but be kind in this process. You didn’t want to hurt them.

Tell them that you have your own personal issues/work to complete and that’s why you can’t help them now.

Here's an article that you should read: How to Stop Saying YES When You Want to Say NO

2. Say You’ll Help Them Later.

Say you’ll help them later, but you should really mean it. I have seen many people saying that they’ll help other later, but don’t do anything.

Don’t be like them and if you say it, then you should really mean it.

3. Know Your Priorities.

You should set priorities in your life and believe me your own self should be on the top of your list. Chose you and your goals over everything, that’s how you can succeed and can become happy here.

Don't let others distract you from your way to success. There'll be many distractions in your way, all you have to do is to follow your goals and don't choose anyone or anything over your goals.

Here's an article that you should read: 7 Easy Ways to Stay Away from Distractions

Conclusion:

By saying being selfish I don’t literally mean that go and be selfish. Ignore every other person and just do your own work. NO!

By being selfish I mean to know about your priorities and when you should say NO to others. Most times you can only be happy by choosing yourself over anything else and that is what you have to understand.

“If you really want to be happy, you need to be a little bit selfish.” -Manish Kumar

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One question that keeps hitting my mind is, should I care about what others are saying about me or my work? I mean should I care about their opinions?

Well, didn’t know about you, but I personally didn’t really care about others opinions. I mean unless they are going to benefit me.

If they say me you should stop this blogging thing and should focus on your studies and try to get a job, I just completely ignore them. They really didn’t have any idea about what I am doing and how’s it going to help me in the future. I have a dream, which no one believes and see, but only me.

If you’re too like me and have a dream which you want to achieve but your surroundings keep saying that you should stop it and focus on something else, then this post is for you. You’ll be going to get an idea about what you should do in this situation and what is going to be best for you.

So, let’s talk about the first thing first,

Should you listen to their opinions?

Well, it depends. I mean if they’re saying something that’ll be going to benefit you, then keep it in mind. There’s nothing wrong in listening to someone else opinion. You should keep your ego by side and should listen to them.

But if they’re saying something bullshit like stop this work and focus on your studies or something else, then here’s a thing, ‘just completely ignore them.’

If you have got a dream, and you think it has a great future, then don’t listen to anyone in this world. Just focus on your dreams and keep working consistently. There should be only one voice, that is yours.

It doesn’t matter how big your dream is. You have got the power to achieve that dream, and you have to believe it. There’s nothing impossible in this world if you wanna achieve your dream, then go for it. Don’t listen to anybody who is telling you to stop.

Misconception about success.

There’s always been a misconception in our surroundings that we only get succeed by studying in college or universities. From the very beginning, they teach us that if we want to succeed in life, then we have to study and have to get good grades.

Well, I didn’t say that studying is a bad thing, in fact, I love studying. But the thing is those school grades won’t make us successful, but our abilities and our skills make us successful.

This word ‘success’ means different to every other individual. For you, it may be to get a good stable job, for your brother it may be to be a great singer, and for me, it is to be a great entrepreneur and leave a legacy behind.

So, if you just want a good job, then studying should be your priority, but if you’re like me, then you’ll know that there’s so much knowledge outside from those school books and we have to explore that.

I just want to break this misconception that success only can get from good grades.

Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and so on. Do you know all these millionaires are college dropouts and haven’t graduated from the college!

So, there’s no point telling others that success can only be achieved by good grades.

Is your dream worth it?

There’s no point in ignoring the whole world if your dream is not worth it. I mean if your dream won’t going to make a living for you, then what’s the point of ignoring others?

I mean just be practical here. You have to make money if you want to live. So, if your dream is not going to make a living out for you, then you should listen to what others are saying.

Now don’t get me wrong, but I am just being real with you. I don’t want you to starve. So, it’s better you should listen to what others are saying and do something which will be going to benefit you financially.

You can always achieve your dream, but keep it in mind, that dream should be worth your hard work and ignorance.

“Dreams are not achieved by hard work only. But it takes consistency, ignorance, and failures too.” -Manish Kumar

Keep your ego on a side.

I saw many people who just don’t listen to what others are saying just because of their ego. Just because they don’t want someone to guide them. I mean what’s the point of it? What are you trying to show to the world?

Ego, attitude all these things won’t give you anything, except people’s hate. Self-respect is must, but ego is another thing. You should know the difference between these two.

There’s nothing wrong or to be ashamed if someone teaches you something. It doesn’t matter if they’re elder from you or are younger from you. We just can’t know all the things and there’s nothing wrong in being taught by a younger person.

So, if you’re one of them who ignore others opinion just because they’re younger or you just have some ego issues, then sorry to say my friend, but you’ll never going to grow. We grow by making mistakes and learning from them. But if you’re one of them who don’t want to be seen as a failure then you’ll never be going to grow.

“Winner and losers both fail. It’s just winners who learn from his mistakes and try again.”

Conclusion:

So, in short, you should listen to others if they’re right. And now don’t say that how can I find out that how will I know that if they are right or wrong!

If you think your dreams are worth ignorance, then go for it. But if your dreams are not worth it, then its time to put a full stop and you should listen to what are sayings.

And you should never ignore others just because you have some ego issues. Be a kind person, and if you’re wrong then admit it and listen to what are sayings.

Hope you like it. Please do share it with someone who needs to read this. And let me know in the comment section below do you listen to other’s opinions?

3 Bitter Truths of Life that Everyone Should Know:

1. Sharing Your Problems with Others

2. No one will save you.

3. Life is Unpredictable.

3 Tips to Get Over Your Fear of Public Speaking:

1. Do not underestimate yourself.

2. Educate yourself.

3. Practice, Practice, and Practice.

Conclusion:

How Being Selfish is Beneficial?

How You Can Be Selfish?

1. Speak Softly and Calmly.

2. Say You’ll Help Them Later.

3. Know Your Priorities.

Conclusion:

Should you listen to their opinions?

Misconception about success.

Is your dream worth it?

Conclusion:

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